Power of Reframing: Replace “should” with “will”

Changing what we say, even to ourselves, can have a profound impact on our mind. Today, we will discuss replacing should with will in our writing, speaking, and thinking to increase our chances of doing.

How many times “should” we do something? I should go to the gym. I should stop eating chocolate. I should call my mother. How often does should turn into action? Probably less often than we would like. Replacing should with will changes the way we think, and when our thinking changes, our doing changes. How can we start reframing to use will more?

Journal

The training begins with writing. Every time we write the word should, we should cross it out and replace it with will. This is a fun and rewarding experience. When I started doing this a few months ago, I often caught myself writing should. I should call my mom soon. I will call my mom soon! I went from not doing it because I should to doing it because I will. It translated from writing into doing very quickly.

Speak

My mother always told me to think before I speak. I was admittedly very bad at this for a long time. I was full of auto-responses, reactions to news and content. Unfiltered, I said many things that I probably shouldn’t have. With reframing, we should will pause to think before we speak. With practice comes purpose. After thinking before speaking, pausing to say will instead of should, we will commit to doing more. Doing better. 

Think

I just discussed how important it is to pause and think before speaking, otherwise should will come rambling out of our mouths. Referring to thinking, we will think, to ourselves, that we should be doing a lot. I’m writing this on Wednesday, when I should have written this on Monday. I should have planned my time better. Right? There’s a lot of shoulds in our lives. The current and future should becomes will. The past should becomes didn’t. Thinking in these terms will train our brains to become doers and not people who should. 

Practice

Take five minutes and write down ten things that you should do. Cross out should and replace it with will. Then think of ten things that you should do. Replace it in your mind with will. Finally, go tell someone something that you should do, but before you speak, replace it with will. Since you used will, you’re committed. So, be careful to not will something you don’t want to. The should to will exercise will make you more realistic, because you will stop talking about unrealistic things that you should do. 

What are your top five shoulds? Share in the comments!