Power of Reframing: I never need; I want

Power of Reframing: I never need; I want

I need sustenance, shelter, basic health care, and clothing. I want everything else. How can we reframe the way we think about our needs to have a better relationship with the things we want? Read on to find out. When I was ten years old, I needed the new Madden football game. Fortunately, my one […]

Ownership Mindset: turn off your notifications

Ownership Mindset: turn off your notifications

Are you in control? One simple way to find out is to set your phone/tablet/computer aside just for a few hours and see how this makes you feel. What you feel might surprise you. Let’s take back control. Where are you reading this? There’s a 60% chance that you are reading this on a mobile […]

Power of Reframing: Choose to instead of have to

Power of Reframing: Choose to instead of have to

We don’t have to do anything. We choose what we do. This reframe will change the way you view decision-making and how people view you. Two weeks ago, we discussed how powerful replacing will with should is. Today, I urge you to replace have to with choose to. The difference between having to do something and choosing to do something […]

Why you should automate your life

Why you should automate your life

Automate everything. What can we do to automate more so we can focus on what matters? Here’s a few tips and examples on how to automate your life. It’s no secret: automation is here. How can we automate our repetitive tasks so that we can use our limited willpower to do deeper work? There are […]

What’s in the box?

What’s in the box?

Much of our life exists within a box. Does anyone want our “outside the box” ideas? Unfortunately, no, it’s mostly rhetoric. The box is king. What can we do about it? For better or worse, our lives exist within a tightly regulated box. The government and large corporations crafted a box of what they think […]

Power of Reframing: Replace “should” with “will”

Power of Reframing: Replace “should” with “will”

Changing what we say, even to ourselves, can have a profound impact on our mind. Today, we will discuss replacing should with will in our writing, speaking, and thinking to increase our chances of doing. How many times “should” we do something? I should go to the gym. I should stop eating chocolate. I should […]

Deconstructing Self – Emotion

Deconstructing Self – Emotion

This is the third part of a three-part series on Self. The three parts of Self are identity, power, and emotion. Today, we explore emotions.  What is emotion? Emotion is a state of mind. Because emotion is a state of mind, does that mean we can control it? Change it? Do we have complete power […]

Deconstructing Self – Power

Deconstructing Self – Power

This is the second part of a three-part series on Self. The three parts of Self are identity, power, and emotion. Today, we explore power.  What is power? “Do you feel in charge?” “I’ve paid you a small fortune.” “And this gives you, power, over me?” Bane said this in The Dark Knight Rises to […]

Deconstructing Self – Identity

Deconstructing Self – Identity

This is the first part of a three-part series on Self. The three parts of Self that I will deconstruct over the next few weeks are identity, power, and emotion. Today, we start with identity. What is Identity? Many self-help books, courses, and motivational speakers focus on identity. Identity is complicated, and when we think […]

Learning how to balance conflict in a romantic relationship

Learning how to balance conflict in a romantic relationship

Last week, we discussed family conflict. This week, it is time to discuss the elephant in the room – romantic conflict. Balancing conflict with more than conflict in a romantic relationship is very challenging. Let’s help dive into some of the nuances of these conflicts. Maintaining a personal, romantic relationship is one of the most […]